Wednesday, October 12, 2011

little miss milk

little miss milk by lovelydesign

Here is my little miss milk, on her way to a costume birthday party. I was a little concerned because I knew all of the other little girls going to the party are all really quite girlie. I assumed that Addie would be the only girl not dressed like a princess at the party. But when we arrived, there was only one Snow White there, amongst assorted witches, bats, and Transformers. Addie held her own.

Growing up, I had no interest in the stereotypically girlie world - dolls, princesses and the like. I still remember my mom's disappointment that I didn't care for Barbies! I had an older brother for inspiration, and so I spent most of my time running around after him. And playing with my pets. Oh, and I have clear memories of pretending I had a crafting TV show in which I'd show people how to make things.

Adelaide has only lightly dabbled in moments of pink and fairies. I usually steer her away from over marketed girly type things. Truthfully, after years of working in marketing, they kind of freak me out! And I am secretly relieved that she hasn't been overly obsessed with any of these things... (yet!)

But the other day, out of the blue, Addie said to me: "Mama, how come you never let me have any princess things?" and I felt so incredibly guilty! Have I been denying my daughter the joys of discovering her feminine side? Oh my.

And so that very afternoon, we trooped over to the neighbourhood dollar store - our mission: $2 for Addie to pick out any item she desired.... it only had to be something princess. After much searching and deliberating, we left the shop with a pack of fairy crayons - she didn't want the princess ones, after all.

30 comments:

Anonymous said...

Don't feel bad for not exposing Addie to a lot of princess stuff! I just read an article last week about how much damage it can do to young girls. A lot of people think it's "no big deal" since it's such a part of daily life for so many children, but it does have specific, concrete effects on self-confidence, body image, and what girls value about themselves.

More milk!

linda said...

OMG..this is the cutest costume ever!! And kudos to you for not feeling the need to immerse her in the cliche girly things.

i admit, i had my share of barbies and princesses growing up. not that my mom exposed them to me, but because i wanted them on my own. i grew into them and grew out of them. kids may be kids, but they're also very perceptive of what they want and don't want. and i think you've filled up your home with enough feminine and pretty things, that the overly girly stuff doesn't need to be around for addie to feel feminine.

sweet and lovely crafts said...

What a lovely costume. I'm a long time reader, but I don't usually take the time to say hi. I do enjoy reading your posts!

Daniela said...

She looks soooo cute in her milk costume! :) Love her red boots too!

Joey said...

Oh she looks SO cute!
My daughter was always building things and doing crafts at Addie's age so she didn't have many "girlie toys". When she turned 8 she started to ask for dolls and fairies. We don't do highly marketed toys, and thankfully if they are given as gifts they are often quickly forgotten and then I tuck them away!
Trust your instincts!
~ joey ~

Crystal said...

Gorgeous, gorgeous girl. Not all girls have to be pink and girly. It's wonderful that you let her figure out what she wants to be without putting her in the 'girl' box. x

Carin said...

That is a fabulous costume! Love it!

My girl wasn't really interested in pink until a few months ago. Now she can't get enough of it/ I'm hoping it's just a quick phase and try not to be too discouraging, just in case she gets a bee in her bonnet about it.

peanut said...

I like the milk costume :) It reminds me of one year when my sister was a sail boat.

we were never allowed to have barbies and I never really got into a lot of pink but I'd say that for the most part (lets ignore the oversized t-shirts and jeans of high school) I was still a girly girl. I think it's completely possible to feel feminine and girly without sticking to the heavily marketed princesses and pink everything.

I do still sometimes dress up as a princess for Hallowe'en but it is going to be some sort of elaborate, hand-made, (mostly) historically accurate costume representing a specific period in history - not a Disney film.

J E N said...

Addies is just adorable, as always!

Ransacked Goods said...

First, excellent costume!

Second, you're pink princess story sounds very, very familiar to me. My daughter isn't too into the princess thing preferring yoga pants, soccer and drawing but I feel like she sees other girls at her school who are really into it so she tries to like it too. I'm sure it's not going to be the last time her peers influence her but it's my job to gently guide her towards strong images of girlhood.

Here's another link I just read: http://www.chicagonow.com/portrait-of-an-adoption/2011/10/pink-is-not-the-enemy-stereotypes-are/

phyllis said...

this book came up on my facebook feed -- friends of ours with a little girl your addie's age were excited to read it and it sounds like you may find it interesting too :)

http://www.amazon.com/Cinderella-Ate-Daughter-Dispatches-Girlie-Girl/dp/0061711527

sonja said...

super cool costume, addie! I'd love to hear more about it!

Judith + Robin said...

this is such a great costume! will you be dressing Reid as a cookie ^_^ ?
—Robin

Qaseh Gifts said...

Awwww, super cute!

backlanenotebook said...

She looks so sweet. In my view any opportunity to offer an alternative to pink and fluffy should be embraced.

Brooke Reynolds said...

She makes a lovely milk carton! I have had similar issues with the princesses. Especially with things that are hot pink and sequined. I broke down a while back and bought my daughter a few princess outfits and though she played with them for a bit, she is now back to the things she has always loved (coloring, riding her bike, etc.). I've never been more proud of her than the day we went to Disneyland and were waiting in line to meet the princesses. The line was long and I was not thrilled with spending an hour and a half in it. Bee finally said, "Maybe we should go on some rides instead?". Love her!!

bicocacolors said...

I looooooove it!!!

julia @ simple truths said...

I wonder how I'll feel as my little girl grows up. I loved my barbies until I was about 10 years old. Then, one day, I was just done.

I remember loving to sew little dresses for them and being utterly annoyed that I had gym shoes that never stayed on her pointy-toed feet.

I never liked princesses. They seemed so boring and I wanted to DO things!

Maya Catching Butterflies said...

Oh this is precious.

urban craft said...

wicked cool! Hooray for milk! Awesome costume mom.

Anonymous said...

I think it is important have a balance. I was a little tomboy, I am an engineer and I was not very feminine at all. So I try to expose my daughters to this feminine part very careful because I am agree that girls nowdays are very girly.

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Hamlin said...

Happy Moms realize that the days are long but the years short. It's not that they are impervious to stress, it's that they have learned to lower their expectations and be in the moment when things get difficult. When your toddler is puking all over the house, this is not the time to reorganize the hall closet. A sick day then turns into a time to create sweet memories of hours spent reading and cuddling on the couch.

India Pharmacy said...

This is really original and at the same time this is a very easy costume to make, I'm gonna make one like that when my child going to a Halloween party.

Anonymous said...

The costume is super cute- there is nothing wrong with girlie stuff though, I'm not talking about princesses or barbies.

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Susan Lines said...

hahaha, this picture is so funny. Cute costume. Milk cartons are so much better than princesses anyways :)

MESy said...

she's not only the cutest but also full of character :) you are a very lucky mummy :)))