Friday, November 20, 2009

beautiful sleep

Today, for the first time in many weeks, Adelaide took a nap.

To me, Adelaide's naps are the most beautiful of all her sleeps. In the light of the afternoon I can see her well, and just how beautiful and sweet and full of peace she can be. Elliot will be the happiest guy around because he'll get to snuggle right in her. And when Addie wakes up from a nap, she is the most charming little person you will ever meet. But best of all, I get an hour or two of time all for my very own... Naps are fantastic things!

Well, since Adelaide suddenly stopped napping several weeks ago, I've become a little frazzled. I didn't realise how important this time has become to me. Suddenly - and without any warning - I don't have those precious few moments a day to catch up on all those many mounting emails, or to put together some goods, or to work on some ideas, package up some orders, or even simply tidy up my studio a little bit. Suddenly, I have found myself without my best personal assistant ever: a little bit of uninterrupted, quiet, solo time!

Each and every time this parenthood thing seems to get a little bit easy to me and I find myself thinking: "Oh, this is great! A piece of cake! I can do this, and I can do it well! And, run my business, too... no sweat!" My little daughter will pick my vibe, and she will switch it all right up. She will get sick. Or start waking up at 6 am. Or refusing to go to bed (or nap). Or maybe she will just need to be held all day long, for no apparent reason at all. Instantly, she will toss me right back on my butt into a much humbler place. Where I belong!

But - today - my little girl napped. Once more. Perhaps for the last time ever. And it was marvelous.

35 comments:

RosaMaría said...

really she is so beautiful at her naps!

Barb Fisher said...

I can SO relate! My little girl is the same age as Adelaide and has started refusing her day time naps at times. She'll go a few days without napping, then it all catches up with her and she'll go through a few days where she'll nap again. That time is so precious! I wonder how I will cope without it.

Megan said...

Such a beautiful photo! I can empathize with how important naps are. *sigh*
A friend of mine with a few children said that even though some have stopped napping she still institutes quiet time where they have to go play quietly in their room for an hour...where they look at books, lay on their beds with stuffed animals or just play quietly alone doing whatever (in their room/space). When the time is up she goes to get them and she says it allows THEM time for peace as well as herself and they learn the importance of "me" time as well.

Steph said...

She is beautiful! We too are trying to adjust to no naps.

Kimmay said...

Oh she'll nap again... just maybe not until she leaves the house. I miss naps. I also have photos of me and my kitty napping together when I was really little. She will cherish these photos :)

Georgine said...

My three year old (b-day in early October) stopped napping also. Maybe once a week, or in the car. I miss her napping, but then, it is nice not to have to schedule errands around naps. I try to convince her to play by herself for a bit of time, or she crafts while I do. Good Luck! And yes, they are so peaceful when they sleep. I do love to see my girl sleep, she looks so peaceful. Much different than the whirlwind she is most of the day.

Catherine Hansen Peart said...

Oh, how I mourned the loss of afternoon naps!

Roxanne said...

How peaceful she looks and Elliott too! You are such a beautiful writer. I hope there are many more naps in her future.

donnag said...

I love your blog and your designs. Addie makes me wish for more time with my little girls. The weren't very good nappers but when they got cranky the would have 30 minutes of"quiet time" where they just had to stay on their bed...usually with picture books. It was heaven. They were refreshed and so was I. Now one is a registered nurse and one a new pharmacist. They are still precious but different.

Firenze said...

Pure beauty.
Helen
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vermiljoen said...

look at that, what a moment to hold on to!! My problem is that I find my children while sleeping so adorable that I kiss them awake...

cindy said...

she is a beautiful napper and looks so tranquil. i envy her ability to sleep so soundly. elliot is adorable in the second photo, too. before you know it, she'll be going to school and you'll miss her terribly, so maybe just hang in there a little bit longer. your work will get done, in time.

Sophie said...

just want to second the "quiet time" idea. it's good to let her know that mummies and little girls both need some quiet, restful time by themselves during the day. i did it with both my girls when they stopped napping, and it really did save my sanity

lynelle said...

Naps are awesome! You don't realize how much that peace and quiet can really rejuvenate a parent. I recently just discovered that my daughter naps more when she's involved in imaginative play (make-believe) than when we go to parks or do more vigourous outdoor activity. Isn't that interesting? Anyhow... does Elliott have a spot in the house-- (kitty litter) any ideas/tips about having cats and kids?

Zom said...

What a beautiful picture taken by such a wonderful mommy. I too relish the days my wee lad just refuses to let go of me..they will only last so long. :)

Anonymous said...

love the pictures, they are so sweet.

Steph said...

Until you are a parent little things like naps are things that only a parent can cherish. I know that becoming a new parent not too long ago it made me realize that alone time are so special. My little guy started taking naps recently and I've become to appreciate it so much!

Amy said...

My little boy wants to stop having his naps as well, which is crazy because he is only 1.5 years old! But I've decided he must always have a "quiet" time on his own in his room, for at least 40 minutes so I can have a little time to clear my mind and start again! So far so good... a mama needs some down time that's for sure!

Gosia said...

Oh girl, I've been there... I'm a mum of 6 and 4 year olds and I had to say good bye to naps some time ago. However, as I'm writing these words, they are actually NAPPING.Lovely!!
Take care, Gosia.
ps. Don't worry, your girl will have her naps here and there, occassionally!!

jennifer r said...

what a precious image. i have four kids ages 5 up to 16 and i so agree with the one hour of "quiet play time" as we call it. one hour can seem very long to a little person. i have always hung in my kids' rooms clocks with hands. then i place a sticker on the number that the big hand needs to reach before the play time is over. i think it helps them feel more at peace as they keep tabs of things on their own. and at the end of that quiet hour, life can resume with all family members having kinder, refreshed minds and bodies.

lilouka pour JojO said...

Magnifique !

caryn the designer said...

I too want to encourage the quiet time! I grew up with quiet time always being a must (all the way through elementary school if I was home) and it became some of my favorite times. I always had to lay on my bed either with books or listening softly to music on my cassette player. My mother had several foster kids come in and out of our home over the years and she instilled this time in them too. It was very tough with several of them, but eventually they learned that it was good to be still for a while and everyone has a better afternoon. (I think this is when I learned to love books more and more too!)

Mommy of three said...

Oh I know. Nap time is so wonderful and I guarded it sacredly for years. My oldest napped until he was 4 and a half. He will still stay alone in his room for an hour and draw happily and quietly. My 2nd would gladly nap still--he's 3 and a half--but then he doesn't go to bed until 10 pm. My youngest is switching from 2 naps to 1. For a short, blissful period, I had all of them napping at the same time. heaven n earth I tell you. Now, we rest, but it is not the same.
Oh well. Life changes and sometimes, change is hard.
I have a whole section on my blog about sleep, largely naps, because it is such a huge topic in my life.
And, your daughter is so cute asleep with the kitty.
Cheers,
Greta

Alicia said...

how adorable! ;)

Jessica said...

These pictures are SO sweet .. . oh how I love watching them sleep!

Checks and Spots said...

So incredibly beautiful and innocent.
I constantly creep into little A's room and watch him sleep. It's always such a good leveler.

Fancy Elastic said...

oh how I miss nap time!

It is hard to replace that useful hour.

they will grow up, hey?!

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Mónica said...

I love this post.
My daughter is now three and I have an older sun with eight. I feel the same way as you do.
Adelaide looks lovely in the photo, an angel!
Thank you so much for sharing your feelings.

Di said...

She is the cutest! You could try what my friend did with her kids (they may have been a little older when this started though). They had quiet time everyday - they didn't need to go to sleep but they did need to stay in their rooms for an hour each afternoon - when they could play quietly, read or nap!

becca said...

you always put things so eloquently! thank you! i too find it an almost constant transition..i think i'm better at getting my head round it though!..that naptime peace is beautiful isn't it!

Maggie said...

What a gorgeous picture! I just found your blog and am going back through your posts and so enjoying it. We have a 2 month old and it is inspiring to see what a great parent you obviously are. I really appreciate your focus on doing things instinctually and naturally and am working on the same over here...so far, so good!

Making of a Montessori Mum said...

Love it! my gal stopped napping in April but has done a few the last 3 weeks. Bliss as I am also 3 months preggo and exhausted.

And I totally know that uping the anti, just when things are cruisy. (: LOL

Love LOVE your blog.

Tina Rubie said...

LOVE your blog :) I think your little Adelaide may be a kindred spirit of my own little Lottie - your post brought a tear to my eye! As challenging as they are, these beautiful little spirits only remain little for such a small amount of time. ENJOY :)Thanks for sharing your beautiful blog and creativity -X

molly said...

Oh, my. Just ran across the feature in BH&G, and marveled that I'd never run across your work earlier. It's perfectly splendid, really, and I'm looking forward to leisurely poking through archives in coming months.

But for now, just a mama note, that this piece struck such a chord of truth, sweet and beautiful.

A very happy new year to you and yours (and a few more naps, to boot!)

Cheers, Molly