Thursday, March 05, 2009

making time

It is taking so long!

It is amazing to me still, how long it takes me to get non-child things done now that I'm a mama. I have only one generally lovely little girl, and I am absolutely smitten with her, and with motherhood, much more than I would have ever thought is possible. But still getting the chance to do whatever I want, whenever I want, is such a rare luxury and a real treat these days! 

Often when I hear of others doing the simple things solo - such as taking the bus all by themselves - I am struck by their luxury. Wow! All of that time to just sit and relax and not to be in mama-mode - constantly on call: mentally, physically, and spritually - for one little person's needs... amazing! How lucky! A bus ride. Who would've thought that such a thing could be so grand.

I should really take one of those, all by myself, sometime.

So our new big studio / family art room is taking a while. I thought I would have it all done and cozy and ready to have loads of marvelous making done in it over one weekend or so - it's been 3 now - but there is no coziness. I am growing a little disconcerted with this lack of coziness. And the lack of making! 

I really - really - hope to be able to finish setting things all up, and be back making again soon!

31 comments:

adalex72 said...

It was good to hear you talk about the 'alone time' and lack of it. I feel exactly the same, and it's so good to hear other people feel the same way.

Lovely Paper said...

i learn so much from reading about you and your little girl. i don't have kids, but i have been thinking a lot about having one within the next year or so and i never thought about the little things not being the same because of a child. thank you for the insight :)

i am sure you'll find time to start making things again, naturally. it will all come together when you least expect it to - the room, the cozy feeling, all the creative projects, etc. i wish you all the best in the meantime!

my Trampoline said...

sharilyn...truer words were never spoken. my son is five, and i am finally starting to have those small all to myself moments. what makes it so bittersweet though is that the older they get the less they actually "need" you for all those things that make up those wonderful "mama moments".

ah, parenthood wields its double edged sword again...someone should have told me about this :)

Sunny said...

Oh my word! I know exactly what you mean. And so true, my Trampoline... how I long to complete just one simple task on my own. And yet, I know these days are so fleeting.

shelese said...

You are "making" a young woman, and that is just a different kind of project. Your daughter is absolutely beautiful, and I definately understand what you mean about alone time. There are so many things that are so much more difficult with a child. I get frustrated sometimes too but I know that there will be a time when I wish my baby girl was young again. I love your blog, and all of your projects. You are such a talented mom, Addie is so lucky to have you:)

Jen G. said...

HAHAHA! Welcome to motherhood!! Wait until you have 2 under 4yrs and see how long it takes you! I'm in the process of launching my business and if I was just me it would have taken a week but since it's me and 2 wee people it has taken me over a month and I'm still not there! Good Luck!

I checked out your paper and such - are you still designing and selling? Loved those children's books! And the Rolodex cards!

~Jen

Randi said...

As a mama to just one generally very lovely 10 month old boy, I can definitely relate! The lack of solo and making time can be frustrating, even if (or especially because?) everything else is pretty great. I find I get envious of my husband's occasional work trips - sitting alone on a plane with a magazine for like 5 whole hours?!? Tickle me pink! :-)

Jac said...

These things take time - no point in rushing just so it's done. I'm sure it will all come together perfectly and then you will have your lovely family room where you can all create and enjoy!

Shannon Anderson said...

I absolutely adore you designs. What kind of printer do you have that can print such beautiful things!!?

Milkybeer said...

Your preaching to the choir here (i have a 10-month-old)...alone time just doesn't happen much anymore. I suppose we need to relish the fact that our kids are happy and healthy and let us find SOME time to make (though it is often in 5 minute increments)

Lana said...

Oh boy, do I ever the understand the on-call mom drain! Your studio looks lovely - is that the cat bed on the table? Sweet!

Jessica said...

I so understand! I've just had my fourth, and I'd love to take a shower uninterrupted, let alone a bus ride all by myself ;o)

Where did you get the white drawers up on the counter top? I love those!

Barb Fisher said...

I understand your joy in the simple pleasures of doing ANYTHING solo! I have a beautiful little girl the same age as Addie and just finding time to do mundane things like house work and tidying up is hard....let alone doing anything truly for myself. It can get so frustrating, as being at home, you are surrounded by all these things you could really get your teeth stuck into.....yet not much ever seems to happen. Of course I wouldn't change anything about this precious time I have with my little girl, it's the most important job in the world - but I just wanted to tell you that I understand exactly what you are saying.

jenny said...

Ohhh.. the luxury of taking the bus, or a shower, by myself. Like you, I love my baby with all my heart - but I'm not much of a driver and - taking the bus! Sigh. And smile.

Geninne said...

I'd love to come over and play with Addie while you go on your bus ride :) After that we could all have some cookies and tea!

patricia said...

Our 'little' ones are 9 and almost 6 - they grew up too fast. I love my time alone when they're in school but when I see you sweet girl I miss it when mine were that age. Soak it all in.

Astrid said...

My youngest one is 1½ years old, and I have started working again 3 months ago. I take the train to work - a journey of 1 hour and 15 minutes each way. That is my luxury, I tell you! However - family art room - sounds like I found your luxury... :) By the way, I gave you an award on my blog - love yours!

cupcake studio said...

Just found you tonight...your blog is such a delight!

Bek said...

Hello there, I just found your blog through whip up and it is a truly beautiful and inspirational place. I think you have managed to do so much in the time you have also been a mumma. I will be back to go through the archives with a cup of tea in a quiet moment!

Jenifir said...

I have been enjoying your blog for a few months now and thought I might add a few words. Firstly, I know how much you are craving that alone time. My second baby had extreme "Mummyitis" and even Daddy would not do but she is a delightful teenager who is strong leader in her peer activities &community involvement and while she seeks my advice and is still emotionally connected to me she is well on the way to independence. The youngest of my four is about to turn eight and while enjoy the time to myself, I find that it wonderful to have them unexpectantly home on snow days. We switched rooms in a similar fashion when the older two were small. My husband and I moved into the smallest bedroom(with a kingsize bed filling up the space), our daughter spent the first part of the night in her own bed in a room she shared with her brother and then came to bed with us and the "master bedroom" became the studio. I did my most productive sewing, my husband practised violin (his job) around the kids, the children played close to me. Less crafting than I expected actually occurred because I was unwilling to fight their disinterest: my daughter is still not keen on anything crafty but she did witness me enjoying the process and appreciates handmade items. Addie seems already interested so you may have more luck involving her. My younger two require little encouragement to make or draw things. I hope that you post pictures of you new space as I was very inspired by your old space (apartment therapy).

Meghan said...

Don't forget that by converting the room you already are in a state of creativity... turning chores into an act of "making" is the only way I stay sane sometimes!

Life at the White House said...

Hi there,

I just wanted to introduce myself and let you know that I think your work is AMAZING, WONDERFUL, SO FUN! I just stumbled upon your blog today from Oh Happy Day! and I am so glad I did.

Some of your creations make my heart swoon! I am dying to buy an address file, but saw that they are sold out. I'm going to send you a separate e-mail on that site to follow-up.

Again, lovely blog, lovely work and a precious little girl! You are blessed!

Twin_number2 said...

I love your blog and your baby is soo super cute?
Where did you get the white drawers up on the counter top? I'm loving them.

Valerie said...

Sharilyn --

Thank you so much for the ADORABLE little books. They arrived in the mail today, which automatically brightened my day to have happy mail! The otters are our favorite at the zoo, and my husband takes our son almost weekly to the park to feed the squirrels. Yes, those nutty boys sit patiently with outstretched palms to feed the squirrels peanuts (in the shell, unsalted please). So those two books are perfect for us!

Thanks again --
Valerie

Lisa Corriveau said...

Don't beat yourself up over not finishing the studio yet! I would have taken longer myself & I don't have children (yet). Perhaps there should be some sort of formula for how long things take with children, something like when having contractors do work on your home: double it & then add half again!

I have to admit that I've been following your blog for years now & never commented. I'm a lurker...

I really feel like I've gotten an honest, though positive, view of motherhood from you, which really is encouraging. Thank you for that!

cindy : quaint said...

you will get there, sharilyn. don't despair.

Laura. said...

it is good to hear that i am not the only one who has a hard time making time--and i am single! i take bus rides by myself all the time! and i still feel like it is hard to shift from boring, soul-sucking day job to creative making-things time. everything is way slower than i want it to be. sigh. we can do it!

Kathy said...

It's so nice to hear a blogger say the things you said because I feel the same way with my one daughter. I see other crafty mom blogs and I often feel inspired and frustrated at the same time. How do they do it? Maybe some people just don't sleep.

Anyway. I'm new to reading your blog and just wanted to say it inspires me. Thanks for sharing your so true thoughts.

julia said...

A few days a week I have a 15 minute bus commute to and from work - plus a 5 minute walk, before and after dropping off my little guy. That's 15 minutes to crochet in the daylight and 5 minutes where I try not to think of anything more than putting one foot in front of the other - it's my walking meditation.

scruples said...

I've been following your blog for a while now, and my favorite posts are always the ones with the sweet pictures of your baby "helping" in the middle of your work. I work from home as a designer with three small children (4, 2.5, and 15 mos.) and it is always a challenge to get things done. There are toys under my desk and chair, crumbs on my desk, and my mouse is always missing. The design skills and love of beautiful things that you share now with your daughter, she will always remember and make her own some day. Bravo that you get as much work done as you do!

Lori said...

I know exactly what you mean...about being constantly on call...I have a four year old daughter, and I remember well how hard it was to do things when she was that young...but now I have two twin boys (20 months), and I think..."WHOA, did I have free time then!" It's all in perspective. But cherish each day with your little one. It goes by so fast. I can't believe my oldest is already four...nearly five!!!